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Hi. My name is A and I did NOT click the “I’m voting in The 2014 U.S. Election button” on Facebook. Said while hanging head in shame, of course.

I think this is the first time I haven’t voted since I turned 18. I’m probably going to feel guilty about this for years but I guess I’ll just add it to the long list of things that I don’t do anymore since motherhood took over my life. Like going to the gym or on dates with my husband or regular manicures/pedicures/massages/anything that would be just for me kind of stuff.

My state does not allow absentee voting unless you meet specific criteria (travel, exceptional work commitments, illness, etc.) which I did not meet this year. For the last several years I have been able to vote absentee which has worked out well so it kind of irks me that something other states allow just.isn’t.done in mine.

So why didn’t I vote?

I had a hard to get appointment EARLY this morning for a physical therapist to custom make an ulnar gutter splint for me. It’s that super frustrating (and achy) TFCC tear again. This is the fourth brace/splint I’ve had in the last 8 weeks and I’m over it. None of them have worked so I have little faith that this will be the miracle fix I’d like it to be. The whole process took just over two hours and I’m already going to have to go back for an adjustment – urgh. The velcro strap they attached to the top of it has come loose so I’m back in one of the older braces and feeling like this morning was mostly a waste of time.

Since my appointment was so early both girls were up and at school/daycare much earlier than usual which meant they were both way cranky and tired when picked up this afternoon. Merry encountered a wagon with her face today so she was not happy and needed to spend some time with an ice pack once we got home. Ava was hungry and grumpy so after a full day at work and with J working a 24 hour shift I just COULD NOT bear the thought of waiting in line with an aching wrist and two so-not-down-with-patience kids. And you know, you do have to feed them which (theoretically) involves cooking even if it was only boxed macaroni and cheese (don’t judge me – it was organic) and sliced turkey.

And you know that every vote counts thing? Yeah, our state is one that is dead even so they already know a recount is coming. Just imagine the potential for guilt there…

I thought I’d be able to make it through NaBloPoMo but work won out after all.

We have a big project going on at work right now and I am just exhausted. I am averaging about 4.5 hours of sleep a night with last night clocking in at slightly less than 3 hours since I was working late (sometimes laptops and bringing your work home with you is not a good thing). Then we had to get up early to try and walk in for our 900th fingerprint appointment for our second I800A application with USCIS since, once again, the fingerprinting appointment they gave us wouldn’t work for either of our schedules. Thankfully that trip was successful (based in large part, I think, because J wore his uniform which comes in handy for a perk every now and again) and didn’t turn out to be a really early morning and long trip through the tunnel for nothing.

Fingerprints? Yeah, they’re as bad as always. Maybe worse. It’s always good to hear you have the worst fingerprints the technician has ever seen. He asked me if I cleaned a lot since household chemicals can damage your fingerprints. I nearly fell on the floor laughing at that, of course. He also proactively did a paper and ink copy of my fingerprints since he thinks it’s likely my electronic ones will be rejected. All this would be great if I were a criminal, apparently. Not so much since all I want them to do is approve the same form they’ve already approved for us 4 times over the last 6 years.

So anyway, I blew this 30 day posting thing . Ah well, I’ve posted more this month than I have all year so at least there’s that.

I was going to do a random phone photo post – – except I’ve just spent the last 30 minutes looking for my iPhone and I can’t seem to locate it. On top of that, Find My iPhone isn’t working for me right now so I have no clue where it might be (except maybe in the car and I’m not going out there to look tonight – too cold).

Crap. This means I’ll probably have to do an Ava purse search in the morning. That’s where I found my debit card last week after it had been missing for ages. And my keys. And my work ID badge.

So that’s all I had for you tonight. Sorry.

Oh, wait. Ava had another fabulous day at school. I dare not hope we’ve turned the corner completely but it’s given me hope in a week when I sorely needed it. Work is, ummmm, stressful (not in a bad way) right now and knowing that I can come home to an easy(ish) night and just relax (well, not much due to school) is priceless.

Now that’s really it for tonight.

After our mega long parent-teacher conference the other day (did I mention I booked the last appointment of the day because I already knew it would take me way longer than 15 minutes?) it appears that we are seeing a little bit of improvement. Ava had a rocky day Monday but the last 2 days have been great for her and I can tell that her teachers are making a concerted effort to praise her more for her successes AND to make sure to tell us, in front of her, how well her day went. Even going so far as to provide us with a few examples of her good behaviors during the day so we can continue to reinforce the positive.

I realize we’re only a couple of days in but this shows me that her teacher did listen to our concerns and is trying to help. I feel much better about that.

And I’ve given myself a stern talking to as well. I need to adjust my attitude as to how I react and respond to these issues and learn when and what to let go. I’m not saying I’m backing down – just reminding myself that I need to choose my battles and not sweat the small stuff. I will also admit to recently going on a oh-please-somebody-teach-me-how-to-parent book buying binge at Amazon so some of my attitude adjustment is coming from there. In particular I’m finding this book, The Pocket Parent, to be very helpful. Highly recommend for toddler/preschooler parents. I wish I’d read this one a little sooner.

So that’s the good news.

The bad news is that apparently when her horrible, sucky, bad choices kind of day packed up and moved out it just hopped right on over to my office and settled in. It’s been a long time since I had a day this bad. It started when I left the house and only let up for the few hours I spent with her this evening (and honestly, even then I was a little distracted by it). But you know what? I’ll keep it if it means she doesn’t have to deal with it.


I’m going to bed now just to get this day over with. Stick a fork in me ’cause I’m done.

Annual mammogram results came back today.

There’s always that heart in my throat, panic-y feeling when I see that envelope in the mail, ya know? As a veteran of more than a few callbacks for follow up ultrasounds, the wait between mammogram and results drags by and it just makes me a tad bit more nervous every year (especially since I’m now squarely on the other side of 40).

Normal. That’s what my letter said.

Done for another year, YAY!